Lifestyle Feature: When Keeping It Real is All The Way Wrong by Trisha Alicia

To the happiness of some, I almost titled this blog “Doctors say I’m the illest ‘cuz I suffer from the realness!” But I know it makes everyone else happy that I did not leave anyone out by quoting a hip-hop star when talking about the straight up, no chaser, just-the-facts truth. So, somewhat sulkily I decided to stick to my original, more universal title.

Last time, we discussed being in transition and the battle that ensues. Did the blog help you settle down and accept what’s happening? I realized at the end of that post that IT people, when not swinging between powerful action/activity and deep introspection, can be a handful. We don’t have the time, nor the patience of Noah (LOL). We are focused on a destination and we know who’s been shooting with us in the gym (and not really “here” for anyone else). There’s a beautiful simplicity in that. Being consumed by our purpose so much that we’re are at the do-what-it-requires stage. It’s very bold & noble to our mission. But, to ride off into the sunset with destiny shining down on us, we have to remember that a successful destiny builds people along the way.

See, to some, our passion looks a little fanatical. We ARE the crazy mad-scientist to them. Like my song “Everyone” says: “nobody really knows what it takes, until they wear those shoes that do not break in..” They’ve never seen anyone do what we’re doing. They themselves maybe tried to do what we’re doing, but found it too hard or maybe even doubted that God was able. So they, in their ignorance, become hurdles for us to navigate around, through and over. Despite how they treat you, and how you want to “read” them, are you careful in how you handle them? The dope factor about our lives is that we are walking in purpose. We don’t want to hurt others just because we were being petty hurt/annoyed. We don’t need to provide loose interpretations of the good book to fit our feelings or experience in the moment. Ultimately, we can’t afford for the theology of our lives to display a different type of god than the one we know to be all-loving, IN SPITE of the haters (or the Becky’s… or anyone else).

Keeping it real has tremendous power. It frees us and others to live more authentically. With power comes great responsibility. How are you using your power? Transition people see two lands at the same time. You can see where you came from, but you can also see where you’re going. Be mindful not to blast (or over-glorify) those who don’t see the world the way you do. After all, God was god enough to get you straightened out… let him be God to those people too. (smile)

This journey of transition is NOT for the weak… which is why God entrusted this movement to YOU! Is this balance tough? What do you do to keep yourself in check? Let me know on Twitter: @iamTrishaAlicia. I’d love to hear what you have to say. Next time, we go one step further on this journey. We’ll talk about being in the room, but not knowing why you’re there.

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Trisha Alicia is a Nashville based engineer turned singer, songwriter and rhythm-and-word (spoken word) artist. She can be found on all major social media as @iAmTrishaAlicia, or via her website: